One of the most common questions I receive as a medium is simple, yet profound.
“Where are they?”
Where is my mother?
Where is my brother?
Where did my child go?
Sometimes the question comes another way.
“Where are you going when you communicate with them?”
It’s a fair question. And honestly, it’s one I have sat with for many years myself.
The truth is, there is no single sentence that fully answers it. But after years of experiences, connections, and quiet moments of reflection, I can offer something that gets us closer.
Not a final answer — but perhaps a clearer view of the mystery.
🌿 We Are Not Traveling as Far as We Think
When people imagine communicating with the other side, they often picture something dramatic.
A distant realm.
Another universe.
A faraway heaven.
But my experiences have never felt that way.
It feels much closer.
Closer than distance.
It feels more like changing channels than traveling somewhere.
The loved one is not far away in the way our physical minds imagine distance. Instead, they exist in a different state of awareness, a different frequency of consciousness.
And mediumship, in many ways, is the process of quieting my own thoughts enough to notice that frequency.
🧠 Consciousness and the Frequency of Connection
When people hear the word consciousness, they often think of it simply as being awake or aware.
But in the context of mediumship, consciousness is something deeper.
Consciousness is the awareness that experiences reality — the part of us that observes, feels, remembers, and knows we exist.
It is the witness within the body.
The part of us that says:
“I am here.”
While the brain plays a role in processing information, consciousness itself does not appear to be limited to the physical body.
In mediumship, what becomes apparent is that when someone leaves their body, the biological processes stop, but awareness does not necessarily vanish with them.
Instead, what remains is the essence of the person — their presence, their identity, and their emotional imprint.
Their consciousness.
When I connect with someone who has crossed over, I am not interacting with a body or a location.
I am interacting with consciousness itself.
🕊 The Role of Stillness
People sometimes ask how the connection actually happens.
The honest answer is that it begins with quiet.
The mind is normally busy. Thoughts move constantly, and attention jumps from one thing to another.
But mediumship requires something different.
A stillness.
A softening.
A willingness to listen beneath the noise of everyday thinking.
When that quiet space opens, impressions begin to surface.
Sometimes they arrive as images.
Sometimes as emotions.
Sometimes as a sudden knowing that feels unmistakably clear.
It is less like hearing a voice and more like two frequencies recognizing one another.
Like tuning a radio to a station that was always there, waiting patiently to be heard.
✨ The Space Between Worlds
I often describe the connection as occurring in a kind of meeting place.
Not heaven.
Not Earth.
Something in between.
A space where the boundary between the physical and non-physical softens just enough for communication to occur.
In that space, messages do not arrive through spoken language.
They come through:
• impressions
• images
• memories
• feelings that carry meaning
And what comes through most strongly, almost every time, is something very simple.
Love.
Not dramatic messages or grand declarations.
Just reassurance.
“I’m still here.”
🌙 A Moment When the Veil Was Thin
People often ask me what happens when someone transitions.
Where are they in those first moments?
Are they already gone, or are they somewhere in between?
There is no single, simple answer.
But sometimes life offers a moment that feels like a glimpse.
One evening, my husband’s uncle was in the process of transitioning. The room carried that quiet, sacred stillness that often surrounds the end of life — a space where something profound is unfolding even if we cannot fully see it.
My husband turned to me and asked a question that many people ask when someone they love is leaving the physical world.
“Where is he right now?”
Without thinking, I answered honestly.
I told him that his uncle was in the in-between.
Not fully anchored in the body, but not yet completely separated from it either.
It’s a threshold state — a moment when consciousness begins to loosen its connection to the physical form.
Right after I said that, something unusual happened.
My husband’s watch suddenly overheated and froze.
The screen lit up with the number 1333 and stayed there.
He couldn’t turn the watch off. The number remained on the screen, locked in place, until the watch eventually shut down on its own.
Neither of us touched it.
It simply appeared.
For me, moments like this are meaningful not because they prove something in a scientific sense, but because of the timing and symbolism.
The number itself was interesting.
1333
In numerology, numbers carry symbolic frequencies.
The 1 represents the individual soul — the spark of consciousness, the beginning of a new phase of existence.
The 3 is often associated with communication, spiritual connection, and the bridge between realms.
And here it appeared three times, amplifying that energy.
So the number breaks down like this:
1 — the singular consciousness
3 — communication between realms
3 — expansion of awareness
3 — spiritual presence and connection
When added together (1 + 3 + 3 + 3) the total equals 10, which reduces back to 1, returning again to the idea of pure consciousness.
In that moment, the symbolism felt almost poetic.
My husband asked where his uncle was.
And moments later, a number appeared that could be interpreted as a reminder that consciousness continues, even as it separates from the body.
During transition, consciousness is no longer fully tethered to the physical form. It becomes something closer to what it truly is at its core:
energy.
Not the personality contained within the body, but the awareness that animates it.
If mediumship has taught me anything, it is that consciousness is not confined to flesh.
The body is an instrument.
But awareness is the musician.
And when the instrument is being set down, there is often a brief moment where the music still lingers in the air.
For me, that frozen 1333 on the watch felt like a quiet answer.
Not spoken in words, but expressed through timing, symbolism, and energy.
A reminder that even in the moment of transition, consciousness is still present, still aware, and still capable of reaching across the thin space between worlds.
💫 A Final Thought
If there is one thing mediumship has shown me, it is this:
The people we love do not vanish into nothingness.
The physical form may fall away, but consciousness — the awareness that laughed with us, loved us, and shared life with us — does not disappear.
It changes form.
And sometimes, in quiet moments, when the world softens and the mind grows still, we realize something extraordinary.
The distance between worlds is not measured in miles or galaxies.
It is measured in awareness.
And love has always known how to cross that distance.
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